NOTE: The below is not targeted at any one specific individual and represent my experiences.
Dear Women,
Why the hell can’t I figure you out? Everything I do either insults you or gets thrown by the wayside. I grab your drink to fill it up for you so you don’t have to, what I believe is polite, and then ask if you want Diet Coke. You then yell at me because you think that I think that you are fat, which in reality, I just asked if you wanted that because that is typically what you drink. Sorry for being observational and considerate, I will never do it again.
The above is just one of many double standards enforced by most women. We can’t have other female friends because then they think we are cheating, but if they have a guy friend we are supposed to be okay with it. This presents a small myriad of problems, that in turn snowball into bigger problems, thus becoming an issue, that quite frankly shouldn’t exists. Not to mention the whole: He isn’t with me at this very instant, he could be cheating on me. Next time you think that, call him, but don’t be sorry when you wake him up or something.
Most importantly though, I fucking hate the friend zone. Let me explain this to you. It is when you are nice to a girl and get shit in return. The catch though is that you still are willing to do pretty much anything for that girl. However she is typically stupid and goes for the asshole whom she is obsessed with due to some ‘desired’ physical feature. And then they bitch to you about how they are treated like shit and expect you to sympathize with them, which you do, even though you have told them countless times that they shouldn’t just keep setting themselves up for it. This is the part in the conversation where you hope, just hope, that she picks you over him, even though it never happens. Thus the cycle infinitely repeats itself, as you are who she goes to when she has problems, but never who she wants to hang out with and have something more with.
I have been in this state with multiple women since about the 7th grade. Do I want this to change? Hell yes I do. But it never will because I hate being a dick to people, women I am interested in included. I hate being mean, I really do. This however causes me to be put into an endless cycle of 2nd place. No one ever remember who got second place, but everyone remembers who the hell beat them out.
I guess the thing I am scared of the most would have to be that I am always going to end up in failed relationships. I really want things to work with each and every relationship I have ever been in, save one I had in High School (<– Regret). As far as I am concerned you should be committed 100% to a relationship. All or nothing, balls to the walls committed. Yes you are going to have to make sacrifices, yes you are going to have to weather the storm at times, yes you are going to fight. That doesn’t mean give up though. The one balance of this though? The relationship has to be mutual.
Ultimately what defines a relationship is the fact that two people have their own separate lives and seek to have someone else of importance included in them. The important thing is that a relationship is built on growth as a person. Both people have to do this in order for a relationship to succeed. The only flaw in this is society. In a world where one-night stands are considered acceptable it is hard to find someone to be with for more than a couple hours a week to get your jollies off with. Sex is fun don’t get me wrong, it is just not a determining factor for some, myself included.
These are just some thoughts.
<3 RMH
